Ivy’s little corner

March  22, 2005

Thank God it’s tuesday night! Mondays and tuesdays are always a drag. It just seems like the weekend is sooo far away. I remember a friend once sent me an email about the different age range of the work force. It’s actually a very exaggerated caricature of how the older people are so full of energy and bullshit monday mornings that the younger batch couldn’t even utter intelligible words and would just do anything to get the day over. Come friday it’s the other way around. Anyway, it’s not that funny when I describe it now but I just thought It was amusing then.

Last weekend was lovely. I got to see 2 of my adorable friends I only see every once in a blue moon. Actually we call ourselves lucky if we see each other 2x in a year. These are my first batch of friends when I moved here in Ottawa. So many things have happened to all of us. Each of us even found a different set of friends to hang out with. But through the changing times and distance I’m glad that our friendship remained the same.  I will always be thankful for having friends like them…

… I just wish the same for some of my other friends too… BUT! That’s another story! I could only hope and pray that one day we could reunite that friendship back…

Anyway here’s a little something I have probably shared to all of you before and wish to share again.

Hope it gives you a little something to ruminate about in your alone time…

LIVE A LIFE THAT MATTERS

Ready or not, some day it will all come to an end.

There will be no more sunrises, no minutes, hours or days.

All the things you collected, whether treasured or forgotten,

Will pass to someone else.

Your wealth, fame and temporal power will shrivel to irrelevance.

Your grudges, resentments, frustrations, and jealousies will finally disappear.

So, too, your hopes, ambitions, plans, and to-do lists will expire.

The wins and losses that once seemed so important will fade away.

It won’t matter whether you were beautiful or brilliant.

Even your gender and skin colour will be irrelevant.

So what will matter? How will the value of your days be measured?

What will matter is not what you bought, but what you built

Not what you got, but what you gave.

What will matter is not your success, but your siginificance.

What will matter is not what you learned, but what you taught.

What will matter is every act of integrity, compassion, courage or

Sacrifice that enriched, empowered or encouraged others to emulate you example.

What will matter is not your competence, but your character.

What will matter is not how many people you knew, but how many will feel a lasting loss when you’re gone.

What will matter is not your memories, but the memories that live in those who love you.

What will matter is how long you will be remembered, by whom and for what.

Living a life that matters doesn’t happen by accident.

It’s not a matter of circumstance but of choice.

Choose to live a life that matters.

- Author Unknown-

I can’t believe that the weekend is a few hours away from being over.. again!!! Oftentimes than not, I’m left astounded at the pace of time. I still haven’t gotten over leaving my 25 year mark in this world and here comes another birthday come the spring. Well, not that I’m complaining really… I just want my age to be part of the calendar numbers for many many more years to come…. HAHAHA! blah blah! Im talking nonsense again….

Anyway, this weekend was surprisingly pleasant. I worked early saturday as usual, but the stress that I expected to come as the day progressed pleasantly "called in sick" LOL! I guess I was just luckily surrounded by engaging people throughout the day. Even John(my boss) was very supportive…hmmm I guess I should never forget to thank Tim hortons coffee for that! GO Timmies GO!! Roooooolll up that Rimmmm to win!!! LOL!  I hate that contest! I couldn’t even win a single piece of muffin or coffee or donut let alone an SUV or plasma tv.

Saturday night, I finally did what any normal person wouldn’t do to themselves. Well, maybe that’s a tad exaggerated. Since I have a very overactive imagination sometimes, I tend to stay away from watching scary movies. I haven’t watched anything scary since THE RING terrified my sanity for months. So last night, I was supposed to watch this really great martial arts flick with some neighbours, but apparently they stopped showing it on Famous Players last thursday. We couldn’t agree on what to watch after that so we ended up at Blockbuster videos ( no late fees woohooo!) and Nick got THE GRUDGE. He had a deal with us before that he would treat us to a very expensive restaurant if we watch that with him at the movies. Of course Joy and I didn’t take the bait. Hey he doesn’t have to walk his dog @5am in the morning at the exp. farm where there’s not a soul around to see walking their dogs too!

So that was that. I figured it was time to watch it to abait my unending curiosity of what happened to Buffy err… Sarah Michelle Gellar ( you can see im not a Buffy fanatic eh?!). With my face constantly covered with a throw pillow or my hands, and a little hole to peek throught the whole film I endured it without getting too scared. Actually the movie was pretty stupid I think. First of all the ghost(woman) looks like michael jackson!! LOl! seriously! Then that part almost at the end where the woman was dragging her body from the stairs I think was a little scene rip off from the ring (when the girl was crawling out of the tv). Oh! also when that old woman at the beginning felt something before they bought the house and didn’t bother to say anything to her kids. what’s up with that??

So anyway i thought that movie was pretty lame. My friends went home after, I even walked my dog outside longer than her usual. When I got back that’s when my friggin imagination started to get a hold of me and I can picture the woman everywhere. I couldn’t even look in the mirror. Even my next door neighbour’s cat meowed and that terrified me! hahaha!So! lights were on until 4am in the morning until my mom came home. LOL! But still… the movie wasn’t as scary as THE RING. With the latter I had to stop the movie constantly, shake off my fear and watch it again. If I get real terrified I would continue it another day! hehehe.. aren’t I pathetic!

Anyway, today we were expecting some guests to come from Toronto but cancelled just yesterday evening because something came up and they forgot to call early that week. I was really disappointed because I miss their kids and I even bought them presents. hmpf! hehehe. So instead of pouting our Sunday away, we invited a couple of neighbours after church and fed them lunch. It turned out great! We invited a family only but a friend of mine dropped by and my neighbour’s friends dropped by too so it was a jammed packed apartment. We even sang karaoke (magic mic) and had a blast of a time. I almost hated to see it end today. It’s not too often this happens. People are always busy minding about their business without stopping to smile at the world.

*May we never forget the simple pleasures of life….the enjoyment of being with family and friends that genuinely care for us*

I’ve Learned

I’ve learned that you cannot make someone love you.

All you can do is someone who can be loved.

The rest is up to them.

I’ve learned that no matter how much  I care,

some people just don’t care back.

I’ve learned that it takes years to build up trust

and only seconds to destroy it.

I’ve learned that it’s not what you have in your life

but who you have in your life that counts.

I’ve learned that you can get by on charm for about 15 min.

After that, you better know something.

I’ve learned that you shouldn’t compare yourself

to the best others can do,

but to the best you can do.

I’ve learned that it’s not what happens to people,

it’s what they do about it.

I’ve learned that no matter how thin you slice it,

there are always two sides.

I’ve learned that you should always leave loved ones with loving words

It may be the last time you’ll see them.

I’ve learned that you can keep going

long after you think you can’t.

I’ve learned that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done

regardless of the consequences.

I’ve learned that there are people who love you dearly,

but just don’t know how to show it.

I’ve learned that sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.

I’ve learned that true friendship continues to grow even over the longest distance.

Same goes for true love.

I’ve learned that just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.

I’ve learned that no matter how good a friend is,

they’re gonna hurt you every once in a while

and you must forgive them for that.

I’ve learned that it isn’t always enought to be forgiven by others.

Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself

I’ve learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken,

the world doesn’t stop for your grief.

I’ve learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are

but we are responsible for who we become.

I’ve learned that just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other,

And just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do.

I’ve learned that sometimes you have to put the individual ahead of their actions.

I’ve learned that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

I’ve learned that no matter the consequences, those who are honest with themselves get farther in life.

I’ve learned that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don’t even know you.

I’ve learned that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strenght to help.

I’ve learned that writing,

as well as talking,

can ease emotional pains.

I’ve learned that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon.

I’ve learned that it’s hard to determine where to dreaw the line between being nice and not hurting people’s feelings and standing up for what you believe.

I’ve learned to love

        and be loved.

I’ve learned……….

    -Omer B. Washington-

This is weird. I haven’t even a clue what to write. I’m not much of a writer really so here’s something to leave behind until I have more interesting things to say….

Love is all in fire, and yet is ever freezing;

Love is much in winning, yet is more in leesing;

love is ever sick, and yet is never dying;

Love is ever true, and yet is ever lying;

Love does doat in liking, and is mad in loathing;

Love indeed is anything, yet indeed is nothing.                     

   - Thomas Middleton -